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Recently, I’ve been asked a lot for tips on how Moms can stay sober.

And I appreciate them asking because being a mom is trying AND being sober is trying but when you combine the two – WHEW! It is a whirlwind!!

We can seriously use all the help & support we can get!  With that in mind, we have a community support group of badass mommas just like you!  Come join our safe space of awesomeness & understanding in Brave Sober Moms HERE

 

Now for the How to Stay Sober Tips for Moms goodness:

 

The Grace Tip

Whether you’re newly sober, have been sober but a new mom, OR you’ve been sober & a mom for a while but feel like you’re sinking…

This is a big time of transition for you!!

If either is the case, you may be experiencing LOTS of exhaustion, emotions & possibly a lot of anger.

It’s all possible, and it’s okay.

Nothing has gone wrong here.

If you’re anything like me, showing grace to myself was a new thing.  I was used to a lot of self-shaming and tearing myself down constantly.

It will be a practice, but the grace you have with yourself is going to be life changing!

 

The Space Tip

I’m sure you’re already thinking “Leona, I’m a mom. I don’t get space”

Exactly. I completely understand.  At this time, my boys are 2 & 5 and ALL up in my business.

Just hear me out….

As we have already went over, it’s a HUGE time of transition.

  • You’re learning how to function in this life without booze/drugs
  • You’re learning how to overcome shame & guilt that you’ve always lived with and in turn learning how to love who you are (I offer a FREE course on this in Brave Sober Moms)
  • You’re trying to figure out who you are (We cover this in the said above FREE course)
  • Healing from your past
  • All the while, being a mom to your kiddos and trying not to lose your shit

This is seriously not for the faint of heart.  You NEED space.

Here are a few things I do/have done (depending on the season):

a) Have a non-negotiable daily down time for a mental break/reset.

I will set my kiddos up with Blippi or something and then go chill in my bedroom by myself.  Sometimes I’ll do a 30- minute guided mediation, or I’ll just gaze out my window, sometimes I’ll even get a cat nap in.  Whatever my body & soul need; I really try to focus on that.

b) I take one day a week off everything.

We eat leftovers, I order pizza, or we just have cereal all day.  I don’t do chores or business things.  It’s just a break to rest & do what I wanna do for fun (which can also be sitting on the couch all day watching my fav movies)

c) Get a nanny/do daycare or kid swap with a trusted friend/family member

I have done both of these at different times in my sober mom life.

I remember hearing that you don’t get help so you can work more; you get help so you can rest and do things you enjoy.

I have napped while the nanny or friend is here, I will do the heart work, I will watch movies, I will meditate, go sit by a river, get lunch with a friend….

d) Get up an hour before the kids.

It’s the little things like going pee by yourself, drinking a glass of water, or just sitting in bed while journaling.

Just get the space for yourself.

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Another “How to Stay Sober Tip for a Mom” is:

The Alternative Tip

As someone who used to work with others on their health & fitness journeys, I learned a “secret” was finding alternatives to your normal Go-To

For the 1st year of sobriety, I at TONS of ice cream sandwiches, donuts, and candy bars; it was a hell of a lot better than going for the booze & pills

Do you have trigger times?  What can you have in place?

I started getting into teas for my evening drinks.

So think on that to make this work for you.

 

The Community Tip

I would not have made it this far as a sober mom if it wasn’t for my community of women.  And I’m not exaggerating.

With my first little gent I had extreme PPA (Postpartum Anxiety), and it took everything in me to not turn to booze or pills.

Furthermore….

I don’t know if you’ve noticed this or not but there is a HUGE market geared towards getting moms to drink.

Movies, mom nights out, it’s on cups, on advertisements, as wall décor….  Like, for reals.

So, with that being said, a community of women who are sober and moms will really make a difference in your life.

And we again, we do have a group of just that!  You can join us HERE

The Recovery Tip

I had been using for 19+ years and I really needed help in HOW to live life sober because it had been a while…

There are tons of recovery programs out there; if you’re not in one already, I highly recommend you finding one that fits you.

The one I do is completely free and has saved my ass the last 6+ years of sobriety; if you’d like to know what it is, you can connect with me, and we’ll go over that.

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And those are my core tips to how I have stayed sober as a Mom!  I hope they help, and again, please join us in Brave Sober Moms for understanding, support, and badass tools to rock your sober life even harder.

 

Keep rocking on,

Leona.

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